Modern society has conditioned you to desperately seek approval and acceptance from others
Modern society has conditioned you to desperately seek approval and acceptance from others
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Carnivores,
Most people optimize their lives based on what others might think or say about who they are and what they do. Their only lever of satisfaction becomes outside approval. To be content with themselves happens only if others are content with them.
If you are constantly seeking validation from others, you are letting others define who you are. If others think you are great, you will think you are great. If others think you suck, you will think you suck.
Imagine what a never ending battle that is. Your life literally becomes a spectator sport. You lose perspective on your sense of worth and leave it in the hands of people who likely don’t even care about you. You start doing things borne from speculation about how others might react to the things you do. Every action you take is to maximize acceptance and validation…. So much so that you’d rather be wrong with the crowd than right by yourself.
Rid yourself of this mind virus. Break free and relish in your independence.
Put yourself first. If you constantly seek validation as a source of your self-satisfaction, you will devolve into a people pleaser always putting others before yourself. How can you realize your full potential if you never give yourself the opportunity to understand or discover who you actually are, how you actually feel, and what you actually think?
This is your life. Live it for yourself, not on behalf of others. Who gives a sh*t what others think? Your sense of worth starts from within. You are an individual. You are independent. You have the genes of a warrior destined to conquer.
Transcending the need for external approval starts from within. Don’t listen to other people’s expectations. Live up to your own expectations. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop looking around you for validation. Be harder on yourself than the world is on you. Your independence will radiate and validation from others (or lack thereof) will become a mere byproduct of living your life the way you’ve chosen to live it.
