The Urantia Book provides guidance on judging spirituality in Paper 100:6.1-8, which states:

1. Fruits of the Spirit: Judge a person's spirituality by the fruits of their spirit, such as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and self-control. (100:6.1)

2. Inner Life: Evaluate a person's inner life, their thoughts, feelings, and motivations, rather than just their outward actions. (100:6.2)

3. Growth and Progress: Assess a person's spiritual growth and progress over time, rather than judging them based on a single moment or action. (100:6.3)

4. Intention and Motive: Consider a person's intentions and motives, rather than just their actions. Are they motivated by love, or self-interest? (100:6.4)

5. Spiritual Experience: Recognize that spiritual experience is highly personal and subjective. Avoid judging others' experiences or comparing them to your own. (100:6.5)

6. Love and Compassion: Apply the test of love and compassion. Is the person's spirituality characterized by love, empathy, and kindness towards others? (100:6.6)

7. Wisdom and Insight: Evaluate a person's wisdom and insight, their ability to discern spiritual truth and apply it in their life. (100:6.7)

8. Consistency and Sincerity: Assess a person's consistency and sincerity in their spiritual life. Do they practice what they preach? (100:6.8)

By the above, we can gain a more comprehensive understanding of a person's spirituality and avoid superficial judgments.
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